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Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a guy... - 10/16/2008 12:13:24 AM
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silentvoice
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Good day guys.
I am wondering I could actually post this here because I'm not after all going to reply about the topic coming out of homosexuality.
I am just curious to know whether any of you have experienced this kind of feeling.
I am a Christian and I am very serious about my healing from SAME SEX ATTRACTION. Yes, I am also a struggler since I was young, maybe 5 years old as I could remember. I only had the real courage to talk about it 2 years back with some straight male bestfriends from the church and I am grateful that they are really helping me out.
I'm consistently to God to help me overcome and strethen me whenever temptations are around especially I'm working as an On-line tutor so basically most of my temptations come form the internet (online porn of course about man and images of man , nude or not...)
My question is about I feel like I left something from my adolescence and I'm trying to get it now (I'm 26). Like masculine approval and affirmation.
I am fascinated and delighted to see MACHO mAN photos, especially nake/ nude ones. And I am also curious about my sexuality, researching about what is normal feeling, what is the normal ejaculation and masturbation things... I don't know. I think I'm out of control. I'm not sure if it's right to look at those pictures though I just want some affirmation at times.
I'm confused.
Or I'm just hard-hearted because I havebeen reading a lot already about homosexuality and even the Bible and other commentaries have taught me a lot of things already. I even attended Counselling group prior to my coming out/ admittance.
What do you think about how I feel?
Is this sinful?
I would appreciate every Godly reply you would be sending. God bless us all.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/16/2008 8:02:20 AM
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ffbruce
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Hey Bud -
I cannot honestly advise you regarding certain feelings, etc. I've been married now for 25 years, so you and I are in quite different areas.
What I will say is that us guys tend to become more and more like what we willingly "feed our eyes." I cannot think that viewing naked guys is going to be any less detrimental than us heterosexuals constantly looking at naked women on the internet. On one level, we tend to become what we focus on.
So although it's a bit simplistic, I'd encourage you to take Philippians 4:4-8 to heart. Think about, and focus on, the right things.
Beyond that, I can only offer encouragement, support and kindness.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/16/2008 10:28:10 AM
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OneJohn410
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ORIGINAL: silentvoice
Good day guys.
I am wondering I could actually post this here because I'm not after all going to reply about the topic coming out of homosexuality.
I am just curious to know whether any of you have experienced this kind of feeling.
I am a Christian and I am very serious about my healing from SAME SEX ATTRACTION. Yes, I am also a struggler since I was young, maybe 5 years old as I could remember. I only had the real courage to talk about it 2 years back with some straight male bestfriends from the church and I am grateful that they are really helping me out.
I'm consistently to God to help me overcome and strethen me whenever temptations are around especially I'm working as an On-line tutor so basically most of my temptations come form the internet (online porn of course about man and images of man , nude or not...)
My question is about I feel like I left something from my adolescence and I'm trying to get it now (I'm 26). Like masculine approval and affirmation.
I am fascinated and delighted to see MACHO mAN photos, especially nake/ nude ones. And I am also curious about my sexuality, researching about what is normal feeling, what is the normal ejaculation and masturbation things... I don't know. I think I'm out of control. I'm not sure if it's right to look at those pictures though I just want some affirmation at times.
I'm confused.
Or I'm just hard-hearted because I havebeen reading a lot already about homosexuality and even the Bible and other commentaries have taught me a lot of things already. I even attended Counselling group prior to my coming out/ admittance.
What do you think about how I feel?
Is this sinful?
I would appreciate every Godly reply you would be sending. God bless us all.
I have not experienced what you write about. It sounds like you need to quit looking back on your life's past. You have an old habit you are wanting to replace, and that's not easy to do if you keep giving in to the old habit. I'm hoping you can be successful in replacing those old habits with new ones that help you Phillipians 4:8 your old lifestyle.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/16/2008 10:32:14 PM
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Bill521
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Hey guy,
See my posting for you in "Coming out of homosexuality"
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/18/2008 7:49:19 PM
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Dan94
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Silentvoice,
Just today on Focus on The Family Ministries Iheard something along this topic. Try this web site www.lovewonout.com and see if you can find some answers there.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/20/2008 9:38:03 AM
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silentvoice
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Good day ffbruce.
It was so encouraging to hear from you.
It was a very fatherly advice.
I'll take it as a challenge especially to really dig in on that scripture you have given.
God bless.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/20/2008 9:40:26 AM
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silentvoice
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Good day OneJohn410.
I would like to thank you for the advice you have given.
There is much wisdom in it.
Thanks again. Likewise, I'll take it as a challenge to reflect more on the scripture you have included here.
God bless always.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/20/2008 9:42:48 AM
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silentvoice
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Good day Dan94.
Thank you or the effort to direct me to this site.
I have visited it and had a quick browsing.
I'll include this to my list of resources for help.
Thanks a lot.
Stay in God's grace.. as I we all do here.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 10/24/2008 8:40:42 AM
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Silent: I applaud your coming forward with this.
Remember we are all sinners saved by HIS grace, and we all have to deal with temptations if all kinds day in and day out. In that sense your struggle is the same as every other believer. Jesus Himself was tempted in all ways the writer of Hebrews tells us, yet without sin. So the temptation itself is not sin; but how you respond to it can be.
As to the specifics, looking at nude pics of anyone, male or female, who is not your spouse for sexual arousal is wrong. As to the masturbation issue, that is a hot topic with a one-stop thread in this forum and there is no consensus whether it is ok or not.
One thing is certain: the more often you do that with those male images in your mind, the more your brain gets wired to respond sexually to sexy men. That is not good.
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RE: Can anyone explain this to me? Is this normal for a... - 11/18/2008 8:37:09 AM
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evryknee
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I agree with the above posters. Also, if you are looking for that masculine attention and approval, the only approval that will completely satisfy you will be that of your heavenly father. All other attention, approval (from other men or that you fantasize with other men) will leave you hungry for more, with guilt or remorse, and continues the viscious cycle.
The desire you have for affection and love is a God-given one, I think, but where you turn for that intimacy/love/affection is where the struggle is. Ask yourself, "Do I believe that God satisfies my greatest needs?" And if so, " Why do I then go outside of Him to be filled?"
(note: No, the purpose of life is not to be filled and to look to filling one's own needs and using God to do so, but there is a basic human need for intimacy with the Creator.)
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