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Praying for Someone - 11/19/2008 12:22:40 PM
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marienicole
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Hello everyone and blessings to you all.
I am kinda in a tough place right now, how do you pray for someone that has really hurt you ??
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/19/2008 12:36:42 PM
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csl7037
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Think about all the ways God has forgiven you, read what the Bible says about forgiveness, then do it.
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/19/2008 1:12:21 PM
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pbaribeault
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Pray the revenge Psalms -- that's a real deep experience when you are angry.
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/19/2008 1:13:09 PM
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deermousie
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You forgive them but you don't lie down in their driveway to get run over again. Pray that God will bless them and you, and go tell them they've sinned against you. If they repent, rejoice. If they don't, go back and tell them again with several witnesses. If they still don't repent, take it to the church. It's Matt. 18. If they aren't a Christian, then you could tell them I suppose. Or just let it go; I don't know what the Bible says about that. Sorry.
David the King of Israel said that he had sinned against no one but God, and so it is, odd as that seems to us. This person didn't sin against you but against God, so their relationship with God has a big wedge in it. To get rid of that wedge they will need to confess and repent to God and to you, because sinning against you violates 1 Pet. 1:22 that we are to fervently love the brethren.
To put this in perspective, I think about my unbelieving parent who sinned grievously against me, and what he did in these days would mean prison. But he sinned against God! God required that of him half a second after he breathed his last. As far as I know, he never repented or even admitted his sin, and died in it. Yeah, I got hurt, but that's the path I've lived, and my job is to turn to God with my hurts and brokenness and let Him heal me and use me. We are cracked pots, and the light of God inside us shines through the cracks to a dark world that desperately needs that Light.
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/20/2008 8:05:58 PM
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DeeAnnBailey
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I've found the best way is to be honest with God about my feelings, that I'm hurt and angry and that I don't know how to pray for them and ask Him to help me to pray from my heart for them.
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/20/2008 8:32:18 PM
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csl7037
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I've learned a lot about forgiveness recently. One of my best friends HURT me . . . and she did so with my dh...yea, hurt's a word. For starters.
But I decided right away I could forgive dh - my whole life as I know it kinda depended on me being able and choosing to do so. God spoke to me and said to forgive I had to forgive completely - like he does. I decided I could do that and then realized he meant completely - both of them. I realized it would be disingenuous to just forgive him but hold some grudge against her. I'm living with him, sleeping with him, raising children with him . . . if I can be around him constantly without holding this to poison our lives, then it would be a cop out not to grant the same grace to her. I don't deserve the grace I get from Him any more, afterall. It seems to me, to hold bitterness against her would just be an excuse to not be really forgiving him. She can't be the scape goat if I've truly forgiven him.
Forgiveness really is an act of our will. And it's for our own good! Ask God to show you that person the way He sees them...and ask Him to keep you mindful of the extraordinary grace you've received (over and over). Kinda doesn't leave you an unforgiving leg to stand on.
Then it's easy to pray for that person.
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/20/2008 8:57:29 PM
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nevaehs_gaze
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To make it easier to pray for someone who has hurt you, I often think of them as the ones being hurt first. For example, when I'd feel emotionally crushed by my father, I'd remember how he lived his childhood, how his parents treated him the way he treated me, how he was also hurt and probably didn't realize he was hurting me the same way. It helped soften my heart and made it easier to pray for him.
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RE: Praying for Someone - 11/20/2008 10:47:29 PM
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The key is forgiveness.
It can be tough, but through prayer, and probably tears, it can be done. I was given some wonderful words of wisdom that I will pass along to you: once you forgive this person, write it down in the front of your Bible ... include the date and what it is you are forgiving (that can be a tough thing to figure out), and every time you feel angry, remind yourself you have already forgiven this person, look at what you wrote in the Bible as a reminder, and make yourself let it go - again. If you are sincere, the anger will subside over time, and you can move on with your life. Every time you recognize the taste of anger or bitterness, just go right back to reminding yourself that you have already forgiven them.
The second part of the process is to just pray for them. At first it will be awkward and most likely very difficult, but through the process of forgiveness and prayer, the anger and the bitterness will fade away and the prayers that were difficult in the beginning will become easier and eventually sincere and direct from your heart.
True forgiveness is very freeing.
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Instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend. That would be giving as the angels give.
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